My little disclaimer to begin with. I’ve only watched the reality show on VH1, which was quite entertaining btw, and everything I know comes from that, so if you have read the book and my note is completely off or wrong, you can comment to your heart’s content and I won’t care. And if you did see the show, the fat dude, Joe D, is the man.
The Game is a book written by Neil Strauss, now a New York Times best selling author. The book is about the friendship of Struass and Erick Von Markovik, also known as Mystery. If you’ve seen the VH1 show “The Pick Up Artist” then you know who he is. This book made the “Mystery Method” popular and led to Mystery releasing his own book with a more formulaic approach and also to the show itself. Essentially, the Mystery Method is a way to seduce women using body language, psychological tricks and self improvement.
cary part? This works. Not even having read it, only watching the show the little things I saw were like Indiana Jones’ sized boulders hitting me in the head because they were that jarring.
The basic concept revolves around the fact that (though I’m sure some of you girls will outcry on my comment board) girls get hit on constantly, and this method gets around the “Fuck Off” wall most every female builds around themselves. “Why the wall?” you may ask. Because dudes are constantly trying to scale it. With their cocks.
Makes sense to me.
Little things you would not have though of, like don’t even talk to the girl you’re hitting on until like 5 minutes in, meaning you are talking to her friends and not giving her the “I’m a pretty girl, I’m used to attention” regard she’s accustomed to. There are a million things, if you’re interested here’s a brief synopsis (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mystery_Method) but really it’s not just for guys who can’t get girls. From what I saw on the tv show, it’s for guys who want someone special, or who just want self confidence by feeling like they are worth while (changing physical appearance or just going from “I suck” to “I’m a prize”).
Worst part? This only cements my theory that there is no simple route with girls. There simply isn’t. There is no Guy meets Girl, Guy likes Girl, Guy/Girl go on date, things go just effin dandy, engagement, marriage, anatomically correct babies, blah blah so on and so forth. “Daniel you’re a bitter asshole”. Yes. Yes I am. Why? Because girls are like candy warheads, they are so sour they actually make tears form.
Even the simplest of girl can be turned off by just open, honest attraction and want from a guy. Take Harold here for example.
Jack Bauer has been to the bathroom more times than Harold has gotten a girl. Why? Because he’s just a simple nerd with no insight as to the craziness of the female psyche. 1+1=2 to Harold, so liking a girl would equate to telling her. No, no, no. Poor Harold
Harold wants beauty, brains, and humor (see previous post on what to look for in a girl). All guys do. He wants Melissa. Say hi to Melissa.
Melissa wants a rock star. She hasn’t thought of kids and marriage, and she won’t until the sun turn her skin into a mine field of melanoma with crow’s feet the size of Big Bird’s size 18’s. Guys hit on her constantly. Every day. She can’t order a burger with a “Would you like some me with that” thrown in. Basically, she is jaded, and if you walk up to her smiling you better be John Mayer, because if not you have a better shot at getting me to buy Catwoman on DVD.
Now imagine if you’re Harold. He wants a Melissa. He wants a Melissa who makes him feel good about himself, who loves him and who he can give his Haroldness to. But he doesn’t know any tricks, he doesn’t know that if you pretend you’re not attracted to a girl it will attract them, that if you tell them you’re busy today, but maybe Saturday it will make them look forward to Saturday. Harold wants Melissa, but he’ll end up with Joan. Say hi to Joan.
Joan wants Harold - she wants his sweetness and wants to feel good also. Joan is sick of trying hard to get guys and has learned that doing as many sexual favors as possible won’t get a guy to like you, it’ll just get a guy off. Sometimes, at least. Depends on the lighting, really. Anyways, Joan is refreshed to meet a Harold. Yeah he’s not John Mayer, but he thinks her Body is a Wonderland (or a small galaxy, really).
The Mystery Method would work even for Harold. He would learn to change his appearance some, how to approach a Melissa, and even get her interested in his Haroldness. Really the Method isn’t just for guys who want to sleep with girls, it’s for guys who want to find the perfect girl for them and are normally too paralyzed with fear or don’t have the tool set to get them. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with Joan…………I’m just saying that instead of Harold going for someone who just gives him attention he can now go for someone who he wants. That’s a good feeling.
WThe Mystery Method would work even for Harold. He would learn to change his appearance some, how to approach a Melissa, and even get her interested in his Haroldness. Really the Method isn’t just for guys who want to sleep with girls, it’s for guys who want to find the perfect girl for them and are normally too paralyzed with fear or don’t have the tool set to get them. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with Joan…………I’m just saying that instead of Harold going for someone who just gives him attention he can now go for someone who he wants. That’s a good feeling.
